Chase and I were gone this weekend doing the Passport to Purity program while the boys stayed at home and went through Mark Gungor's Sex, Dating & Relating Teen Edition. Chase tends to have giving as her love language as well, but she wasn't home to do anything about it, I guess. So, Mother's Day consisted of the rest of the family stopping at Kohl's on the way home and buying a gift card and a Hoops and YoYo talking card (which THEY like) and coming home to find Chase and me already home from our weekend. So, no one tells me Happy Mother's Day because they have to sneak in Landon's bedroom to sign the card they just bought. No one writes anything special on it; they just sign their names. I start complaining about the lack of love the kids have for me, so they go and get the card and hand it to me. That's it. Whoohoo! What a great Mother's Day! I think I'll quit. Let them all mother themselves!
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I'm not much of a card/gift/flower person. Never have been. But I totally get where this post is coming from. You are just having an off day...and feeling unappreciated....as all mothers do at least a million times a day...I know tomorrow will be better for you...you have raised some wonderful children....who...because their frontal lobes are not fully developed have made some bad decisions/choices regarding showing their love for you on Mother's Day. I pray tomorrow you will be "invisible" no more ;) Sending you a big cyber hug!!!!!
Thanks, Danielle. Your comment made me smile. :)
I understand this scenario and know that by now you are not feeling blue....so....would love to hear more about both weekends you had with your children - but if it's too personal for a public blog - I get it. LOL
Love ya, Linda. BTW - after 25 Mother's Days - I've learned to pretty much lower my expectations. LOL Had a great day and the FAMILY keeps eating all my m/m's - which were my gift. LOL
Haha, DeEtta! Thanks for your encouraging words! Passport for Purity weekend with Chase. The info is good; I wish I'd have done it earlier. We really debate this back and forth about giving too much info too early. I think this is an issue with homeschooled kids who aren't going to be as exposed to stuff as kids in public school. Mark Gungor's DVDs: EXCELLENT, EXCELLENT, EXCELLENT! Although I wouldn't do these with Chase yet. They were perfect for the boys. He really cuts to the chase. Are you familiar with him at all? www.laughyourway.com.
I think you can offer them a "re-do." Tell them that their first attempt at Mother's Day failed. Give them a few days' notice and tell them that they can try again on a new day (oh, next Wednesday, or Friday, or Sunday?).
Linda, I think you can be brutally honest, that they don't need to give you another present, but perhaps THEY can come up with ways to make you feel APPRECIATED. If they need suggestions, THEY can look online or ask other people.
This is THEIR chance to make it better; you don't need to even make further suggestions.
And if they fail again, I would go on strike for a few days.
I also got a Kohl's GC. Too bad we can't go out together and spend them!
I LOVE that idea, Kristine! I will be sending them all to my blog to read your comment! :)
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Unfortunately, I could have written your post a couple of years ago. Mother's Day was totally forgotten...it was uneventful, and I got an "Oh happy Mother's day" after I said something....Let's just say, I wasn't happy (I was very upset, hurt, angry).....but they haven't done it since nor have they forgotten about that day, lol. It is difficult when you have different love languages. Mine is words of affirmation etc. My husband's is service.
i was forgotten this mothers day too and that never happens. It was upsetting... hello? Here I am running this family with two little ones in diapers and a teenager and I get not one "happy mothers day" or a gift or card. I think after the stink I made this will be the last one. Haha... I promised jon he would get for fathers day exactly what he gave me..... nada. :)
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